Male Archetypes of Sex & Love Addiction
Do you recognize your behavior or that of someone you care about in these archetypes?
Always Ready: Gary Gay ‘Pride’
Gary is gay, but his version of what gay means includes constant cruising for sex at the grocery store, gym, subway or local coffee shop. He consistently objectifies and hits on guys found anonymously, online, on Grindr or when out in public places. He has tried for that relationship he always talks about wanting, but each time he ruins it by cheating. And every time, instead of considering his own part in the break-up, he says to himself and others, “I wonder when I’ll meet the right guy?” Read more about Gary Gay Pride >
The Double Life: Successful Steve
He’s a 44-year-old successful senior executive who is married to a beautiful wife with two great kids who made it to high school. For Steve the money seems to just keep coming, but at a cost. He works long and hard every day of the week, so doesn’t he deserve to let off some steam after work? Sometimes it’s a little cocaine or a few shots of top-shelf scotch; on other days a blow job from a local prostitute seems to do the trick. His wife has no idea, but in his mind, “How could she complain? She’s got the kids, credit cards and clubs to keep her distracted.” Read more about Successful Steve >
Sex on the Brain: Porn-Obsessed Paul
Paul got married pretty young, thrilled to have found “the one.” By then he was already a little tired of all the carousing, the porn and getting caught cheating on girlfriends. He realized that he should marry this girl, surely then he would settle down and stop this behavior. But before long he was back into porn, online flirting and hook-ups – never having told his young wife about his problematic past. Read more about Porn-Obsessed Paul >
How to Decide, Wife or Mistress?: Frank the Philanderer
He’s raised three kids with his wife of 30 years. For 20 of those years he’s been carrying on affair after affair with other women. Recently, he starting having strong feelings for his latest conquest and now his wife has found out. Should he stay with his wife or leave for the mistress? Maybe he should just start over. Read more about Frank the Philanderer >
All the Wrong Places: Professional Pete
On more than one occasion Pete has slept with clients. A divorce attorney, he has lots of very attractive, lonely women coming to his office every day. Recently after one woman complained to his bar association, he managed to talk and buy his way out of it. But now there’s another complaint that he can’t seem to make go away, and the bar is telling him his license to practice law is on the line. Read more about Professional Pete >
No Limits: Reputation Ronald
Ronald started out with just the occasional porn site, but over time he found his interest drifting. They never seemed to offer the level of excitement that he was seeking. Over time, curiosity led him to fetish sites, then sites with questionably legal and outright illegal content. He always said, “After this time I’ll never look at that again,” but no amount of convincing himself that it’s wrong has ever gotten him offline. Read more about Reputation Ronald >
Trauma Survivor: Sammy Sleaze
Sammy has always just gotten by. He’s underemployed, spends his money on prostitutes and strip clubs, and now he’s found himself with transsexuals and is confused about his sexuality. Read more about Sammy Sleaze >
