Tag Archives: shame

Retraumatizing in Sex Addiction

Addicts are particularly vulnerable to retraumatization because it allows them to check out, to live on autopilot. A case in point is Alexa, who, as an adult, set up the conditions to repeat the trauma she experienced in her childhood.

Shame and Addiction: The Heart of What Ails Us

Kennedy’s mother had left her when she was only a baby, and she’d never known her father. It was her grandmother who’d raised her, and as a little girl she’d clung to her. Her grandmother was a stout woman who always wore pink. She loved to garden and had a religious air about her. She […]

The “Recovery Value” of Guilt, Shame, and Remorse (Part Two)

As written in part one of this blog, many addicts feel as if they are flawed in some deeply meaningful way and therefore doomed to a life of misery, isolation, and regrettable behaviors. These addicts, usually with histories of childhood abuse and neglect, feel as if they themselves are the problem, as if they are […]

The “Recovery Value” of Guilt, Shame, and Remorse (Part One)

Many addicts feel as if they are the problem, as if they are flawed in some deeply meaningful way and therefore doomed to a life of misery, isolation, and regrettable behaviors. Oftentimes addicts in recovery need a great deal of time before they can even begin to understand that they are not inherently defective, that […]