Today, many “narcissist tests” exist that confirm the idea that someone you know (let’s face it, your ex) does indeed have a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The most official of the narcissism tests, the Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI), is commonly used to determine if someone displays narcissistic behaviors. But is it possible to read this test wrong? And can it tell you something you don’t already know about yourself?
Is Narcissism Good or Bad?
Most people would say that someone who displays traits of narcissism is a dangerous person. They recognize the manipulation and the deceit and recall moments when others hurt them in the past. Given the most common traits listed for narcissists, it’s easy to see why no one feels thrilled to receive the label themselves.
When looking at narcissism as a black-and-white issue, it’s easy to paint all narcissists as bad people. However, there are varying levels of narcissism. Certain qualities within the diagnosis show healthy levels of self-esteem.
Can a Narcissist Test Tell You Something You Don’t Already Know?
For all the time they spend agonizing over their self-image, many times those who might meet the criteria for being a narcissist have a hard time recognizing it. So when they take a narcissist test, the answers might come as a surprise.
Taking a test like this can also reveal if you have any narcissistic tendencies. However, having these kinds of inclinations doesn’t make you an evil person. Even being diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder doesn’t make you a good or a bad person.
Using the Narcissism Spectrum Scale, researchers found three patterns of behavior related to what we consider narcissism.
The first is Echoism, which includes people who don’t feel special and focus on others to extremes where they neglect their own needs.
The second is healthy narcissism, which includes people who are empathic and sensitive to the needs of others while still being confident and ambitious.
The last one is extreme narcissism, which is what we think of when we call people “narcissistic.” Those that fall into this category are argumentative, manipulative and constantly seek approval from others.
How to Test for Narcissism
If you genuinely want to know if you have narcissistic characteristics, you’ll need to ask someone who can deliver a balanced point of view. Consider asking them these questions instead of taking a self-report test.
- Can I sometimes seem like I am boastful or arrogant?
- Do I monopolize conversations?
- Does it seem like I look down on certain people or view them as inferior?
- Do I come across as entitled?
- Do you notice that I get angry or impatient if I don’t receive special treatment?
- Are you nervous about giving me criticism?
- Do I have an exaggerated sense of self or seem ever to exaggerate my talents?
- Do you think I focus too much on beauty, brilliance, power or success?
- Do I believe I can only associate with others who I deem worthy of my time?
If any of these questions warrant a yes from your friend, consider the following self-reflection:
- Do I expect unquestioning compliance or special favors?
- Do I manipulate others to get what I want?
- Can I recognize the feelings and needs of others?
- Do I envy others, and do I believe others envy me?
Answering yes to one or two of the above questions doesn’t automatically warrant a narcissistic personality disorder diagnosis. However, if there’s a pattern in the answers, and if your friend answered yes to all the above, you may want to consider seeking personality disorder treatment.
But that doesn’t mean the end for you, it’s really just the beginning! There are options for mental health treatment near you at The Ranch Tennessee.
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