This unique therapeutic approach embraces the teachings found in Don Miguel Ruiz’ bestselling book The Four Agreements, published in 1997. The book explores the self-limiting beliefs that deprive humans of joy and create unnecessary despair. The core philosophy is based on the ancient wisdom and culture of the Toltecs. The Four Agreements encourages people to embrace the following four principles:
- Be Impeccable With Your Word
- Don’t Take Anything Personally
- Don’t Make Assumptions
- Always Do Your Best
This approach is about finding your own integrity, self-love and peace by freeing yourself of responsibility or blame for other people’s problems. The Four Agreements challenges beliefs and habits instilled in people since childhood with the goal of replacing them with self-directed, positive solutions.
How Does The Four Agreements Help?
The Four Agreements helps people let go of negative words, dysfunctional emotions and attitudes driven by others, and in time, adopt strong self-beliefs and opinions of their own. It awakens a person’s mind about damaging patterns around making assumptions, emotional reactions and self-judgment. It helps people identify personal agreements and beliefs that create limitations and unhappiness. Changes do not come overnight, but with perseverance, this approach can help people attain a happier life with inner peace.
Benefits of The Four Agreements
People who follow these principles benefit from a reduction in distorted cognitions and destructive behavioral patterns. The philosophy enhances spiritual empowerment, inner peace and ultimately helps an individual strive to do their best and live a personally fulfilling life on their own terms. Benefits include:
- Greater self-acceptance
- Reduced guilt
- Reduced doubts and fears
- More honest communication
- Increased capacity to meet goals
- Improved relationships
- Decreased negative behaviors