How to Work Step Seven

Humbly asked Him [God] to remove our shortcomings. Step seven is the logical continuation of step six, wherein addicts delineate their character defects and become willing to live without them. In step seven, as one might expect, addicts begin the process of actually getting rid of those shortcomings. In most respects, working step seven is…

How To Work Step Six

We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. The Alcoholics Anonymous authored book, The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, famously calls step six “the step that separates the men from the boys.” What the AA folks mean by this is that compiling a list of one’s character defects and then…

How To Work Step Five

We admitted to God, to Ourselves, and to Another Human Being the Exact Nature of Our Wrongs. Step five is the simplest of steps to work, yet it is without doubt among the most difficult to do. Addicts who’ve completed step four have put together an inventory of their wrongdoings, character defects, weaknesses, fears, and…

How To Work Step Four

Made a Searching and Fearless Moral Inventory of Ourselves Most active addicts consider themselves to be victims, and they use that stance as justification for drinking, using, and/or engaging in other compulsive/addictive behaviors. Nobody understands me, therefore I drink and use. My boss hates me. I think I’ll get even by showing up high. My…

How to Work Step Three

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over the care of God as we understood him. Recovering addicts who’ve achieved lasting sobriety, no matter their addiction – alcohol, drugs, shopping, gambling, eating, sex, or anything else – will nearly always state unequivocally that the key to their recovery has been working the…

How to Work Step Two

Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Most addicts, no matter their addiction (alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, shopping, etc.) find that they key to lasting sobriety is working the twelve steps of recovery. As discussed in this space a few weeks ago, step one explores the depth and…

What are the Best Internet Filtering and Accountability Programs for Recovering Sex Addicts?

For sex addicts, the Internet is a dangerous place, providing instant and seemingly endless access to pornography, prostitutes, casual/anonymous sex partners, emotional affairs, and more. For this reason, anyone hoping to recover from sexual addiction absolutely must install a parental control software program onto his or her computer, laptop, smart-phone, and other Internet accessible devices.